A Beautiful Marriage

I recently wrote this post on my Facebook page about marriage…

“Marriage is such a beautiful thing. You find the man of your dreams, spend the rest of your life with him, and form a family. Sometimes it’s not so easy though.

I’m married to a hard working man and I would be lying if I said that it wasn’t hard sometimes.

Sometimes I can be so selfish in our marriage and I know that. If he doesn’t work late we won’t have enough money for our bills and rent. If he does work late, he comes home to a wife who is desperate for his attention.

This man provides more than I deserve. If I tell him I want something, few times will he tell me no. When he sees that we’re going through a rough time he does anything and everything to try and make things better. I can’t help but feel like I have failed him at times.

Instead of being grateful that I have an amazing husband who takes amazing care of me and our son, I wait for him to come home to pick a fight. I get spoiled with everything he does for us when many times I don’t do the same. I act as if he is out partying with friends when in reality he is just out working hard to give us this wonderful life.

His hands are rough. They have blisters and they’re cracked. His clothes are torn, stained and dirty. He doesn’t care, though. He’s content with just coming home to his family. His dreams have come true of becoming a father but most of all of being able to be a man that provides for his family.

He has everything he has ever wanted in life. I’m working on being a better wife. Someone who is understanding and provides unconditional love. I have realized he is offering me the most beautiful form of love there is…he works to give our family everything we need.

He wants God to be the main focus of our family so he comes home from work tired yet manages to get ready for church almost everyday of the week. I’ve never met such a humble man and I thank God for giving me a life partner that has helped me become a better person. I wouldn’t have it any other way.”

I wrote this thinking to myself, “what is the definition of a beautiful marriage?” Does such a thing even exist? As I thought more about it I thought about all my husband does for our family and how grateful I am for having a life partner as loving, caring, and hard working as him.

They say a happy wife means a happy life, and he is certainly making me a happy wife. Maybe we don’t have everything we want but we definitely have everything we need and with each other’s love, we have everything. I realized, this is the definition of a beautiful marriage. Having a beautiful marriage doesn’t mean you have 0 problems and a perfect life. It means that you have learned how to deal with the everyday struggles that life brings together. You’ve learned from each other and make one another stronger as everyday passes. Loving each other even through the worst arguments and at the end of everyday holding them close and knowing that there is no other place you’d rather be than by their side.