I don’t think anyone is ever ready to be a mom. Yes, you can read every single book on how to be a great parent, watch many parenting videos, and even take parenting classes but you honestly won’t know exactly how to be a parent until you ARE a parent. Raising a child will be difficult regardless of how old you are.
I became a mother when I was 19. Now mind you, I was married and living on my own so it may be a little bit different from many young moms. Even with this, I didn’t feel prepared. I was still so young. I felt as if people were going to judge me; married or not. I stressed out a about bills, rent, and about how much my life was going to change. Now, I don’t want you to think that I was being selfish about being stressed about my life changing. I was stressed in a way that I didn’t know how my life was going to be. Being the control freak I am, this drove me crazy. It overwhelmed me so much. I will tell you though, every single thing that stressed me out changed as I started preparing for the birth of my son.
I prepared so much. Literally changed the way my whole apartment looked. I was acting as if I was waiting for the arrival of a really important person to come visit. In reality, I was. I was waiting for my child. My “nesting stage” lasted my whole second trimester and if you ask my husband, I was literally going crazy as the day got closer.
I fell in love the day he was born. August 17, 2016. he is my little baby, the one that lights up my day. I know it might sound a little cliché but every time I talk about him I just can’t help but write everything I love about him.
Every day is an adventure with him. Even though he is only 6 months, there are so many things I learn every day. Seeing his personality evolve as the days pass is such a beautiful thing.
Being pregnant does change many things however. Your friendships will change, the people you used to hang out with will start to slowly fade away. That’s also a time when you realize who your real friend are. You will also become pickier about who you make friend with. You will start considering what kind of people you want your kids to be raised around and that’s usually responsible people that usually have kids themselves.
Not everyone will judge you for being a young mom. Once the “she’s so young and she had a baby” phase goes away, people will start admiring you for all of your efforts. You will soon realize that the people who judge are those that don’t have any kids themselves. Once you’ve had a baby though, what other people think of you won’t matter anymore because you no longer have time to think about those things. At the end of the day, life is way to short to spend it worrying about other people’s opinion. You will come across many people that understand what you’re going through. They will let you know how proud they are for everything you’ve been able to overcome. And trust me, it’s such a good feeling.
Being a young mom is truly a blessing. Yes, you grow up faster and you have so much more responsibilities but I can honestly say that I would not have it any other way. It does take sacrifice and you give up so much but you will end up having so much more. You carry a tiny human being for nine months and just wait for the day that you can meet this person that you’ve longed for. Yes, it takes a lot of sacrifice.
You can’t do whatever you desire because there is this life that depends on you for love and support. They are counting on you. The stretch marks, mood swings, cravings, pain; I’m sure every mom will agree when I say that none of those things can compare to all the joy that a baby will bring. It’s all worth it. Knowing that you have a body that is able to create life is an amazing thing. When I first held Isaac I knew my life would change drastically. He changed my life’s perspectives, the way I viewed the world. All my worries faded, and for that I will be forever grateful.